Lately, it feels like my husband and I are just passing each other in the hallway. Between our work schedules and the constant scramble for childcare, we rarely have time to actually connect.

He works late; I leave early. Hes gone for days, I am working full time and figuring out childcare alone. Our conversations are mostly logistical—who’s watching the kids, who’s calling the sitter, who’s grabbing groceries. It’s a never-ending cycle of tag-teaming through the week.

Finding good childcare is a blessing. We have two incredible nannys but with my husbands new work demands, it seems almost impossible to piece meal a schedule that actually works. This has been one of the biggest challenges. His new work demands adds stress to already packed days.

We’re not fighting. We’re just tired. And while I know this is probably just a phase, it’s hard not to notice how little time we spend as a couple. Right now, we’re doing what we can to keep things running. I hope later we’ll have time to come back to each other—not just as parents, but as partners.