As a mom, there’s nothing more heartbreaking than seeing your little one sick, especially when they’re clinging to you, asking for hugs, and just wanting comfort. My toddler has been under the weather for a few days, and as much as I want to be there for her, I’m stuck in a dilemma. I have hardly any sick days left.
The thought of leaving her when she needs me most weighs heavy on my heart. How can you go to work when your child is crying for you, holding onto you for dear life? The idea of stepping out the door while she’s so vulnerable feels impossible. But I know if I take more time off, it could mean I’m left with nothing and then owe work money if I am out. As a working mom, that’s something I can’t afford but as a mom in general, leaving her is not something I can do.
It’s frustrating. Why does the system not make room for the reality of being a parent? Why is it that when your child is sick, the world demands you to choose between your job and your family? It’s like society expects you to work through everything—be productive and dedicated to your job while still being expected to show up fully as a parent, even when it feels impossible.
I’ve been thinking a lot about this. Why is it that I’m supposed to push through with no sick days left, but still be a good mom and worker? Why do we, as parents, have to constantly make these tough decisions? We shouldn’t have to choose between caring for our kids and making a living. Moms shouldn’t feel like we have to run on empty just to meet society’s standards.
It’s time for the system to change. Parents need support—real support. Moms need more than just sympathy; we need paid sick days that give us peace of mind when our children are sick. We need more understanding from our workplaces when we need to put family first. It's not about choosing between work and home; it's about finding a balance that actually works for both.
For now, I’m choosing to be with my daughter. Because at the end of the day, being a mom means being there when they need you most. But I can’t help but hope that one day, things will be different—for us and for all parents out there who are struggling to make this impossible choice.
Until then, I’ll hold her close, even if it means making tough sacrifices, and hope that we get the support we deserve soon.